Buddism For Mothers

In regards to the last post about looking in the bright side and choosing your own perspective, this book is amazing! I would highly recommend it to any mother. You don’t have to be a buddist or want to be one to appreciate the theory behind it. It’s all about being present and your best self for your babies :) I have bookmarked the pages that I can most relate to and every once in a while it’s a great refresh to go back through and reassess.
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Buddism for mothers

The Bright Side

Wake up thinking it’s going to be a shitty day and chances are you’ll be right. Wake up thinking you can do better and chances are you will.
Wake up thinking this is going to be the best day ever and it’ll probably come close.
No I’m not trying to sell you a religion or pyramid ‘the secret’ style scheme. I’m just being mindful and conscious of my approach to certain situations that are being thrown at me every day at this point in life. My kids are always challenging me, my patience and my way of thinking. An insight to the toddlers mind would be awesome some days when I’m trying to think ‘why he’s screaming at the top of his lungs when he finds out there’s no more mineral water left, hmmmm’. But his way of thinking has also forced me to time and time again reevaluate my way of thinking.
I don’t ever want to look back on this time and feel disappointed. I know so far I’m proud of what Ben and I have accomplished with these children and I just want to keep the good times rolling. Learning to say ‘yes’ more, learning to pick my battles and not expect the worst.

This morning at 4.30 am I heard the door knob turn and tiny toddler feet walking into my room. “Hug Mummy? Show Mummy?” (Sonnys way of asking me for a hug then to go watch tv with him) At first I’ll admit I kinda pretended not to hear him, but he’s pretty persistent so that didn’t last. I initially just wanted to nudge Ben to get up because I couldn’t be bothered and it was too early, after all Daisy was still sleeping so I deserved a sleep in too. But then I heard his sweet little voice again; “C’mon Mummy” After as long as he’d laid down and hug for we were on our way to the couch. Toy Story was in the dvd player and he was happy. We sat and ate breakfast and hugged until Daisy woke and wanted a feed. It was all too early and loud but I just kept feeling like I can never get this morning back. I took every moment in with him. Smelling his hair while he sat in my arms, gently scratching his legs, holding his little hands, things I feel I never have time for these days or never make time for. It was the best.

Anyway, what I’m getting at is that these moments that I firstly feel like rolling my eyes at can turn into something so special, there’s just that choice that it begins with. A choice to turn the situation into a positive or negative. A smile instead of a frown can be the difference between a tantrum and a game, saying ‘yes’ to his help can create a special memory and build his confidence. Of course there’s a time and place for frowning don’t get me wrong. I’m just finding the more calm, gentle and relaxed I can be the more Sonny and Dais pick up on that and somehow take it on in their own attitudes too. What I’m saying is basically general knowledge but it can be so easy to get caught up in the list of things to do that the moment is missed or the frown just seems easier way out. I wish we could press pause at different phases of life now I know how quickly this time is passing!4.30am feeling Daisy Cuddles Sonny wants to help

Beach Ready

Couldn’t help but do up a kids beach version quickly but before I knew it everything I liked had a pattern on it. We would be the most mismatched family at the beach, but all these things are amazing so who cares!

Beach Pattern Overload

 

Summer Staples

As an intense summer approaches our wardrobes are getting a clear out and refresh. Moving old things to the top of the draws, handing down what no longer fits from the seasons just passed. I am guilty of buying my kids clothes that are 2 sizes too big so they last as long as possible. Sonny has had some of the same clothes for 2 years now because at the time I bought a shirt too big and would roll up the sleeves or tights too long and would cuff the bottoms. Just this morning Daisy was wearing a pair of Bonds shorts that are a size 4 haha but the drawstring means she’ll be able to wear them for who knows, 3 or more years!? Anyway they are in need of a few new staple items so while my growing baby sleeps next to me I’ve been searching some of my favourite and affordable online kids clothing shops to see what’s on offer at the moment.
I’ve just started to come around to dresses on Daisy. Maybe it was just because I had a boy first that girls clothes freaked me out for a while and kinda still do. But now she’s walking a simple little dress with a Tee underneath looks soo cute, and is easy at nappy change time! Below are some favourites found online today, there’s a bit of a theme going between them by accident.
Daisys Summer Dress

 

Sonny is a t shirt man! Singlets make him look like he’s about to go rave at a techno festival with all his bros so I tend to shy away from them. Plus my kids get burnt easily, so sleeves are a must for us. He thinks he’s either a pirate or bat man every day at the moment so the below are simple yet effective for a crazy pirate super hero.
Sonnys Summer Tees

 

What the f**k does your kid eat!?

I’ve been asked this question a few times lately. What do the kids like to eat, what does Sonny eat for lunch at school? To be honest this always intrigues me about other kids too. When I’m putting Sonny’s lunch into his classroom fridge I just want to have a sneak peek at what’s on the menu for the other kids that day!
Both my kids have been raised vegetarian so far and eat pretty (what I would consider) healthy. We’re currently tossing up the idea of introducing fish to their diets so if anyone has any advice on that subject please leave a comment below!
It can be a struggle at mealtime some days. I’ve come to the conclusion that I need to feed them before or as they are getting hungry otherwise they’ll lose interest or be tired and won’t want to eat at all, ahh the frustration!
So I thought I’d share some of our most successful foods for the kids;

First off there’s the favourite – Sushi
A great way to hide vegetables or meat. Sonny loves the classic avocado roll, but it’s so easy to sneak other things such as cucumber, capsicum, carrot, tofu and sun-dried tomatoes. Make it for dinner then put a few extra rolls aside to send for school lunch the next day. It’s actually so easy to make as it’s mostly raw but the rolling may take a few goes to get perfect.

Sonnys Sushi Lunch

Every child likes Pasta
Sonnys personal favourite is Ravioli, so we just jam pack the sauce with veggies such as mushroom, zucchini, capsicum, tomatoes and eggplant. That’s always a school lunch leftovers winner. Basil pesto is also awesome for hiding extra greens and getting them to eat some nuts.

Hide the vegetables in Bakes
In the cooler months a quinoa bake was a staple item for dinner and lunches. I’d make up a huge batch of quinoa in the rice cooker (makes life so much easier) steam up potatoes and broccoli. Then make a tomato based sauce with onion, garlic and grated zucchini, mix all together and bake with cheese on top. Super easy and healthy :) Also there are some great macaroni and cheese recipes that are made from boiled veggies and cashew cheese. Another easy way of hiding veggies for fussy eaters.

Veggie Fritters
Sonny attends a no nuts or egg school so ‘no egg’ or mashed pumpkin is a great option if you need something to bind your creations. Pretty straightforward ingredients; grated potato, zucchini, corn kernels, onion, garlic, steamed pumpkin flour and egg or no egg. Yummy with some fresh avo, chopped up tomato and lime on top.

Salad wraps

Mild Curry
Your kids may surprise you and love curry like ours do. You can get a lot of mild curry pastes or powders, then steam up a bunch of veggies, make a coconut rice, some pappadums, some yogurt and that’s a huge dish with lots of left overs. Great way to incorporate beans, lentils and chickpeas into their diet as they can be tricky ones to get kids to eat. Just be sure to check if your paste contains nuts or not if you’re planning on sending it as left overs ;)

Then there’s just whole pieces of Fruit
At Sonnys current age he’s really into being able to do things all on his own, so he likes his food to be whole instead of cut up most of the time. A little apple, banana, kiwi fruit, strawberries, peeled mandarin or orange always make him feel important., independent and he’ll usually eat almost all of it.
Daisy would live off plain avocado if I let her, we just spoon feed her out of half an avo and she’s happy.

apple and hommus toast

Daisys Fav

All these meal options are very straight forward and I’m also no nutritionist so these are just a list of some of the things that work for us :) I love new food ideas and inspiration so please leave below some of your kids favourite foods!
Sonny also loves his multivitamin in the morning. You can get some yummy tasting vitamin c, zinc and multi vitamins for kids now which can be used as a ‘treat’.
But you can win Sonnys heart with a piece of cake, typical kid!

Carrot Snack

where we are now

Where to start? I feel like it’s been forever since I’ve written anything down, amazing memories are being created in front of me every day but I’m just too in awe of everything to document like I should be so I don’t forget these special times! The love has been extremely strong. My heart feels as though it’s grown to a whole new size because of these children I am so lucky to call my own.
Sonny is surprising me everyday with the hilarious and smart things he comes up with. Meanwhile Daisy the overachiever started walking at 10 and a half months and there’s no stopping her, she is too capable for my liking ;) Of course with the good days and feelings come the bad days and moods but overall I have far more to smile about than dwell on.

Daisy began sleeping a couple of weeks ago. The first night in her own room I woke at 2.30am with a gasp and fright. ‘Is she ok? Why the fuck has she not woken up yet? I’ve got to go in and make sure she’s ok!’, there she was as peaceful as I had ever seen her. She’s gone from feeding up to 20 times a night while co sleeping to sleeping 10-12 hours a night in her own room with maybe one feed. So that’s helped me feel more human and patient. She’s still obsessed with breastfeeding in the day so I’m happy to continue on past 1 and see what happens.

Life is good. I’m feeling the time going so quickly, so I’m trying to figure out what I should do with life once these kids are less dependant. Study, work, be a lady of leisure (I wish) the opportunities are endless but a little daunting. I’ve been in full-time mum mode for 3 years now so I’m hoping my brain can keep up when it’s time for the next thing! I can’t imagine doing something different from ‘this’ but the time will come when I’ll need to find that next identity and that’s exciting! Ben and Dais Daisy is 1 in almost a month today! This year has just been so huge. The best and most crazy by far. I remember when she was about 12 weeks old and I was in a really strange frame of mind. Anxious, scared to be alone, a bit sad, bordering on post natal depression but feeling super in love with my kids, then I look at the frame of mind I’m in now and it’s worlds apart. I’m so glad when I was feeling like that, that I reached out to close friends and family and got it off my chest. Almost straight away it would make me feel lighter. I guess the point I’m getting at is that having kids is huge, it’s the biggest and most important time in your life and will be for the rest of your life. But that first year is the test, it shows you your best and worst sides and forces you to grow and develop into the person, mother, father that you want and need to be. Safe to say I’m already feeling emotional that the 1 year mark is fast approaching. And I’m now ramblingDais and I coffee date Dais The gang my homies Sonny Daisy first steps

9 months with 2

Wow 9 months has seriously flown.

If you were a reader of this blog once upon a time then you may have noticed I very rarely write or post anymore. Lack of time and important things to say can be blamed for that. But I would like to write here spontaneously as a keepsake for my children and I.

Life with two, wow! It has been an amazing thing. My children are happy, healthy little humans so i consider myself lucky every day. Never the less, there has been rough patches, sad weeks and days that have felt like they would last forever. I’ve been blessed with an extremely happy and content second child, she would smile at almost anything and is so warm and loveable. She slept like a dream for the first 12 weeks but since then a night that involves 10-20 feeds is just the norm.
She co sleeps and is fed on demand and that’s what’s working for us for now. I’m sure things will change as she grows. It feels like she’s still my little baby I brought home from hospital. The days have gone too fast and the months creep up at a scary rate. I’m not ready to move her out of our bed or wean her off the boob. I’m happy to hold her close and breathe her in while I still can.
It felt like it took  forever to get to this age with Sonny. Waiting for him to hit milestones and going through  breastfeeding hell. I guess this time round I’m just busy. I made the life altering change from solo to mother already, so adding one more to the gang has been surprisingly easy.

We grew up and moved house. Upgraded from our 2 bedroom villa in a complex on the outskirts of the Gold Coast to a stand alone 3 bedroom house in the heart of Burleigh, walking distance to the beach. What a perfect place for us. Ben now rides his bike to work and I walk with the kids to play dates and groceries. It has been a soul cleansing change and I’m so proud of how we have all taken to our new home. Especially son child, i thought there might be some adjusting to be done after living in the same place from birth but he’s been amazing and it’s like nothing ever happened. Maybe it’s the type of home we live in now too. It’s warm and homely, not all sterile and new.

Things are good and we are happy.

Daisy is trying to outsmart us all and I won’t be surprised when she does. It may be a difference in girl vs boy or the fact that she’s the second child but she is developing at an alarming rate. She’s not far off walking, talking and getting her first job!
Sonny is the wild child. He is full of emotion and energy, it can be exhausting but hilarious. He’s such a character and his speech is developing so quickly now, he’s speaking in sentences when he can. It’s a proud mum moment to watch. My little man is growing up. He’s so affectionate and loves hugs so he keeps his mumma very happy.

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Daisy Wilde – 5 Months

Well that snuck up unbelievably fast!
Oh Daisy girl what a beautiful little being you are, I can honestly say it’s been the best 5 months ever! Who knew I had this big place in my heart for another little bubba.
You’ve grown like crazy and to me you seem much more ‘advanced’ than what your brother was at this age.
I just looked back on posts from when Sonny was around 5 months and it blows me away seeing the difference of how I was as a parent to how I am now. I feel like I am so much more trusting in myself and my choices this time around. I never second guess if what I’m doing is the ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ thing to do, I just parent with my heart and everything else seems to fall into place.
Ever since you were 2 weeks old you’ve been so alert and checking out everything that comes in your view. You’re rolling, trying to sit and when you’re on your tummy you’re going in circles, I’m going to have to keep an eye on you because any day now you’ll be off.
You’re a boobie monster, you would feed all day if I let you but the thought that starting solids is creeping up so quickly is freaking me out!!
You’re madly in love with your brother, even when he roughs you up. It seems in your eyes he can do no wrong. He loves you too, he’s just learning how to share and show his feelings, he’ll get there. He also doesn’t know his strength so hugs soon turn to him almost crushing you..sigh! I was so scared somedays when pregnant that he would just not cope with sharing me and my love, but he is fine and maybe it’s because you’ve just been so super awesome and chill.
You’ve made my knees go weak with that beautiful smile. Your whole face lights up and you look so cheeky. You make strangers gush and laugh with that funny smile.

I can’t believe your ours, you fit so perfectly in our family I don’t remember what it was like without you.

 

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Born

Your skin untouched, your first big breath,
the sound of your first cry
That moment I first held you close
and looked into your eye

It felt like forever to get to here,
waiting, counting every day
In this perfect euphoric moment,
with you I want to stay

I’ve never felt this love before,
how am I still alive?
A heart just left my body
now it lives on the outside

You’re the everything now in my world

- Jesska Trueman